Letting Go

You know when its time to let go and take a step back to re-evaluate a relationship when it starts getting toxic.

Lately been re-looking my relationship with a certain bloke (no, its not a Brokeback Mountain moment). Known this guy for the past 10 years and within our circle of friends we have come to accept the fact that this guy is just plain domineering but with a great heart, which is why we are all still friends with him.

Its the littlest of things that gets to me. The fact that we all have to participate in whatever he suggests, the subtle emotional blackmail he pulls on us (yes..even guys can be real bitches) which I have tolerated because his pros always outweighed his cons.

No more...as part of Stepping My Game Up 2009 I am ending this one sided relationship. Have stopped agreeing to whatever his arguments are, stopped taking in his negative comments on issues to heart, refused to be cajoled and bullied into having things done his way.

Was pleasantly surprised at how affected i was looking back and the childish crap i had to put up with all this while.

No more.

Nows the time to regain control of this relationship and after reviewing it, am surprised I took a lot from this poor guy. Funny how we sometimes subject ourselves willingly to the whims and fancies in the name of friendship...but its not friendship if the other party is toxic.

Sorry Bro, but a man's gotta go his own way sooner or later. Cancel, Delete, Erase.